In a child’s education an important factor is the parents’ expertise for this “job”. No one is born holding all the knowledge, but we can learn and understand some things from books or advice from qualified persons. As we all know the first and foremost lessons start at home, the atmosphere we build around the kids is one of the most important learning tool. Here are the 15 commandments for parents for building strong base of education and life ahead.
Amongst the commandments a parent should strictly follow are the following:
1. Do not underestimate your child – he can understand more than you think he does and if you make him believe you think poorly of him this might affect his development.
2. Don’t use threat – a child loves a challenge and once threatened he might probably go on and do what he wasn’t suppose to just to see if he can escape the punishments. Threats effect adverse on the Child’s behavior and ay kill his curiosity to ask and explore.
3. Do not bribe your child – if you are trying to get him to learn for money for example, he will fail to understand the importance of learning, all he will get from this is the importance of money.
4. Do not make a small child promise something – small children can’t hold promises so don’t force them to lie and then punish them because they did that.
5. Do not keep them under a short leash – to grow up normally children need some space, some freedom.
6. Establish simple communication –Do not use big words or too many words when you are talking to your child – keep your ideas simple and concise so he can understand everything you have to say.
7. Do not expect an immediate and blind obedience – it is not recommended, the child has to be learned to think for his own not to follow orders.
8. Do not indulge him too much – he can develop compartmental disorders.
9. Do not compromise when it comes to the rules of a game – the trick for a game to become educative is too have its initial rules respected, develop the sportsman spirit ,winning always is not the criteria the main objective is to learn introspecting the loss. He should be taught to loose and win both so he can understand the value of both aspects , winning always will make him overconfident and will not be able to handle the loss in real life.
10. Don’t impose rules that don’t go with the age of your child- as previously stated we all learn by the age, let the child enjoy the childhood , do not over burden them with lot of rules and regulations, do not make them machines let them be humans.
11. Do not try to inflict guilt – guilt is not an appropriate feeling for children, especially if they are little.
12. Don’t give your child orders that you don’t take seriously – your child will try to please you and giving him an order is drastic, and it becomes cruel if that order is a joke.
13. co curricular activities – we often place school ,education and home work assignments at the first place, do remember extra co curricular activities such as playing , crafts, dance , music and all lot of other things are as important as education , they develop the sense of collaborating, cooperation, improves logical thinking in the kids.
14. Interact more often with kids and everyone in the family , appreciate good behaviors and cultivate positive approach towards the kids Ignore negatives at times , after all who is perfect in the world , we all learn by time , so give some time to them
15.strengthen the Parent Child relationship- this is most important , cultivate the bond of friend in your child’s mind , he should express himself openly in good and bad , this is more important in adolescence age. If he/she fears from you he may not express his /her feelings and may take in appropriate decisions.
All these “commandments” are addressed first to the parent. But they are to be referred to by teachers and educators as well. Along with the parents, they will settle upon an attitude and strategy for the education and growth of the child, so that they can give him all the things he needs to properly develop emotional and physically.
